{"id":7313,"date":"2018-01-31T17:13:41","date_gmt":"2018-01-31T16:13:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/nase-i-vase-vreme\/"},"modified":"2026-06-09T14:20:19","modified_gmt":"2026-06-09T12:20:19","slug":"modern-parenting-vs-traditional-child-rearing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/en\/modern-parenting-vs-traditional-child-rearing\/","title":{"rendered":"Back in Our Day vs. Modern Times \u2013 a Comparison That Doesn’t Hold Up"},"content":{"rendered":"

Times change \u2013 and so do the circumstances in which children are raised. <\/p>\n

Just because something was good for our great-grandmothers, grandmothers, parents, or us doesn’t make it per se<\/em> good for our children too.<\/p>\n

People evolve, science evolves, circumstances change. If the opposite were true, there would never have been any progress at all. Imagine Tesla not pursuing his research because why would we need alternating current if he grew up without it? Ridiculous, right?!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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I’m not saying everything new is automatically good \u2013 but everything old isn’t good simply because it’s the only thing we know.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

First and foremost, “back in our day we turned out just fine” is truly not a sustainable argument. Actually, it’s not an argument at all.<\/p>\n

People think this sentence can be used in any situation \u2013 when they don’t know what else to say, when they simply want to sound wise, or even with the best of intentions. Whatever the intention \u2014 it’s not okay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me give you a few examples to back up my point, even though the list could go on forever.<\/p>\n

The Eternal Enemy of Children \u2013 the Internet<\/h2>\n

As a media studies graduate, I have to bore you with this topic again. And that’s also why I feel well-placed to use media-related arguments here. So: when we talk about media consumption “back then” versus today, there is a huge difference \u2013 first and foremost in technological development.<\/p>\n

Our grandparents grew up without TV. Some had a radio, others didn’t even have that. Did that mean our parents should also grow up without TV, even though by the time they were children that medium had become a fixture in every home and every family’s daily life? We grew up without the internet \u2013 at least in early childhood. You could say we grew up alongside the internet, developing in parallel with it.<\/p>\n

We know what a dial-up connection is. We know what slow internet feels like, what a mobile phone without an internet connection means. Our children will not know these things. And that’s fine. They have their own experience \u2013 we had ours. Though I have to say \u2013 what I would have given as a child to be able to choose which cartoon to watch and when\u2026<\/p>\n

Can a Child Learn to Walk Without a Baby Walker?<\/h2>\n

When I was growing up \u2013 as with my husband and my sister \u2013 the baby walker was considered standard: of course children use one to learn to walk “faster.” I never even crawled \u2013 I went straight from the baby walker to walking.<\/p>\n

When Sofia was old enough to get one herself, we happened to be at our paediatrician’s and received a leaflet which stated in red letters that a child must UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES use a baby walker. Along with it came a detailed explanation:<\/p>\n