{"id":7313,"date":"2018-01-31T17:13:41","date_gmt":"2018-01-31T16:13:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/nase-i-vase-vreme\/"},"modified":"2026-10-21T16:32:52","modified_gmt":"2026-10-21T14:32:52","slug":"modern-parenting-vs-traditional-child-rearing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/en\/modern-parenting-vs-traditional-child-rearing\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cBack in Our Day\u201d Is Not an Argument"},"content":{"rendered":"

Times change, and so do the circumstances in which children are raised. Just because something was good for our great-grandmothers, grandmothers, parents or for us doesn\u2019t make it per se<\/em> good for our children too.<\/p>\n

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People evolve, science evolves, circumstances change. If it were the other way round, there would never have been any progress at all. Imagine Tesla dropping his research, because why would we need alternating current if he grew up without it? Ridiculous, right?!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m not saying that everything new is automatically good. But not everything old is good either, just because it\u2019s the only thing we know.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

First of all, \u201cthat\u2019s how we were raised and we turned out fine\u201d really isn\u2019t a sustainable argument. In fact, it isn\u2019t an argument at all.<\/p>\n

People seem to think this sentence fits any situation: when they don\u2019t know what else to say, when they simply want to play the know-it-all, or even with the best of intentions. Whatever the intention, it\u2019s not okay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me give you a few examples to back up my point, although the list could go on forever.<\/p>\n

Children\u2019s Eternal Enemy: the Internet<\/h2>\n

As a media scholar, I have to bore you with media once again. Which is exactly why I feel entitled to build my main argument around them. So: when we talk about media consumption back in our day and today, there is a huge difference, above all in technological development.<\/p>\n

Our grandparents grew up without TV. Some had a radio, some didn\u2019t even have that. Did that mean our parents should also grow up without TV, even though by the time they were children it had become part of every home and every family\u2019s daily life? We grew up without the internet (at least in early childhood). You could say we grew up together with the internet and developed alongside it.<\/p>\n

We know what a dial-up connection is, we know what slow internet means and what a mobile phone without internet means. Our children won\u2019t know any of that. And that\u2019s okay. They have their thing, we had ours. Although, what I would have given as a little girl to choose which cartoon to watch and when<\/a>\u2026<\/p>\n

Can a Child Learn to Walk Without a Baby Walker?<\/h2>\n

When I was growing up, and the same goes for my husband and my sister, the baby walker was simply taken for granted: children used one to learn to walk \u201cfaster\u201d. I never even crawled. I went straight from the walker to walking.<\/p>\n

When Sofia was big enough to get a walker of her own, we happened to be at our paediatrician\u2019s and she gave us a leaflet that said in red letters that a child must UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES use a baby walker. And it came with a detailed explanation:<\/p>\n