{"id":6468,"date":"2021-06-14T11:45:06","date_gmt":"2021-06-14T09:45:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/wann-kommt-das-zweite\/"},"modified":"2026-10-21T17:29:10","modified_gmt":"2026-10-21T15:29:10","slug":"whens-the-second-one-coming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/smama.blog\/en\/whens-the-second-one-coming\/","title":{"rendered":"And When’s the Second One Coming?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Does it happen to you too that people constantly stick their noses where they absolutely shouldn\u2019t? It happens to me ALL THE TIME.<\/p>\n

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I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s because of the region, the culture, the lack of education, or something else, but our people love to mind others\u2019 business instead of their own.<\/p>\n

And what new thing have I said now, isn\u2019t this common knowledge? Nothing really, but if we don\u2019t stay silent about the problem and instead address it and point out the anomaly often enough, then there\u2019s a chance that things will become more conscious and who knows, maybe even change.<\/p>\n

From birth until probably death, we all encounter the almost daily interference of other people in our affairs.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Everyone wants to know where you\u2019re going, who you\u2019re hanging out with, what you\u2019re doing, who you\u2019re sleeping with, how often, and of course, when all that sleeping will finally bear fruit.<\/p>\n

And when it finally does, it doesn\u2019t take long for those same noses to multiply with the question: when\u2019s the next one<\/em>?<\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s common knowledge that one child is simply not enough<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Why? Just because it\u2019s not!<\/p>\n

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A child should have a brother or sister.<\/em><\/p>\n

Why? So it won\u2019t be selfish and spoiled! Okay, because once again it\u2019s common knowledge that all the only children in the world are selfish and spoiled, and that among children with siblings (the more, the better, but again, not too many) there are no selfish and spoiled kids.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also common knowledge that people who have only one child are naturally selfish<\/em>, so they aim for their kids to be the same.<\/p>\n

Just like it\u2019s common knowledge that you\u2019re not a complete or real mother if you haven\u2019t had at least two children.<\/em> In fact, with one child, you\u2019re just a half-mother,<\/em> neither here nor there.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s common knowledge that everyone has the right to ask questions about a couple\u2019s reproductive abilities, because it\u2019s common knowledge that you\u2019re not having children for yourself, but for the family, relatives, friends, society, the state, the species\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s common knowledge that no one asks how you feel. What do you want? What can you do? All of that is less important than the higher goal, and that goal is at least two children, right?<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s forgotten that many people can\u2019t have children at all and that pointing fingers at an empty womb can hurt more than a stab in the stomach.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

That many people, in fact, want to have just one child and don\u2019t consider themselves selfish.<\/p>\n

That many people don\u2019t have the means, opportunities, or conditions to have children.<\/p>\n

That not all siblings in the world are harmonious and on good terms.<\/p>\n

That kindergartens are already overcrowded and have shorter hours than the average workday for a full-time working parent.<\/p>\n

That women, especially mothers, are less likely to get jobs<\/a>, let alone good positions, precisely because they are mothers.<\/p>\n

That those same women earn significantly less compared to their male colleagues, and their pensions will be even more meager, because it\u2019s assumed that while working, they can\u2019t work full-time since they have children, and therefore, when they get old, they can\u2019t survive on their pensions because, obviously, they didn\u2019t work full-time. Paradoxical, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

Every family, whether it has two, three, five, or ten members, should first and foremost be a happy and harmonious family, with love as the guiding force.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And that\u2019s what should be taken for granted.<\/p>\n

Everything else is none of your business.<\/p>\n

Sincerely,<\/p>\n

S-Mama<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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